Valentine's Day, where couple spend lots of money for flower, dinner, and the lots. Lucky me I don't have a partner/companion/girlfriend. So I attended a close relative's wedding registration.
And while you read my ranting blog entry, you can listen to some music I put up. I know I have bad taste. But they're nice =)
When does love exist?
Does it exist since the beginning to humankind? I don't think so, take animal kingdom for example, mammals to be exact.
How do you describe the love of parents towards their unborn child? What about after they're born? Lets not even go into the sacrifice and expenses they give and support the child. Sometimes we can even find news like parents sacrificing their live for their children. Even Harry Potter's story begins with a lil bit of mummy-dying-for-son. The power of love
When I look at a child, I can't help to think that I was once like them, the inocence, how I would yearn for parent's hugs and kisses, how I'd do anything they ask for with no question, yet it took me so long to think about it. What am I thinking at that stage, obviously there's no mind log to keep records of everything but it fascinates me. Does fulfilling my parent's request put me into their good book? If I be good then I will be rewarded? Its so mind boggling.
Then as I grew, I shy away from them. Before we would hug and kiss them in public, and then we got shy, for no apparent reason. Is it because I would be viewed as "manja" at that age? Is it because my peers don't do it anymore? Between that period what went wrong?
Next was the rebellion period. Before, I would follow everything our parents said, and then in a sudden moment, I decided that we actually have the freaking balls to rebel and disrupt the order of things. Where did that came from, it happen so fast my parents aren't even ready yet. Its like hurling a brick at a glass windows, things get shattered. Yet parents will always stood up for you when you're down, even if the words I spoke is sharper than sword.
Then puppy love came. Lets recount how many crush I have. First was Form 1, and then Form 2, and then Form 4, and then Form 5, and then after SPM, and now. So thats 5, or maybe I mis counted something somewhere. Nevermind. I can safely say this because I'm still single, or double, I don't know. But the good news is if you think I'm attractive you know where to say it. The chemistry is so complex, why do I like the girl, I have no idea. Is she pretty? Yes. Well its not much of a choice anyway, would you say she's not pretty when you like her.
Which reminds me: "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder"
Then its time to get married. Boyfriend and girlfriend become husband and wife. Is it necesary to get married after you've been dating each other for some years(some happen in months)? And how to you decide if she's The One?
Because she's filial to her parents and yours?
Because she's a good girl type, so she would manage your family well so that you can focus being the breadwinner?
Because she knows the way to your stomach?
Because when you look her in the eye after a tired day you would feel relieve?
OR
Because she's sassy, pretty, and hot.
Because she knows how to carry herself(Dress up to become hot)
Because she's good at bed? (I'm reluctant to put this, but sometimes this is true)
Because she's from rich family?
Because being with her means that you're the envy of every man?
At the wedding, the parents cried(girl side). Is it tears of happiness? That they've taugh their daughter well, that she'll finally be able to attain happines with new family? Or is it tears of sadness, that the 10-20-30 years or so of their daughter's companion is going to end when she went of with another men to start a new life.
The baby come along, then two, then three. This is the part where it gets exciting. Baby is so much blessing, and so much trouble. Then the couple will experience firsthand how is it to raise a child. Watching their child grow from day to day, experience the joy and pain with them. Then seeing them going through the exact same path of growing up, worry about them as your parents have done before you.
As a parent, we/you/I would worry about alot of things:
Are they getting bullied?
Are they safe?
Are they having a good meal?
Are they hot?
Are they cold?
Are they naughty?
Are they learning how to smoke, drink?
Are they doing drug?
Are they doing illegal things
Who are they going out with
Is their friend trustworthy
Are they mingling with shady people?
Things that we find extremely annoying suddenly became an everyday chores. The same pressure that we live through now goes to our children. We may have promise ourself that the future generation would not be subjected to such treatment, but can you keep that promise?
Then its time for the children to pursue a new family. Are we happy that he/she is finally getting married. Or are we sad(for girl side) that she's going away. In fact we didn't stop worrying, we worry even more. Till the day our time in this world is up.
But love is still around, its like a family treasure passing down from generation to generation.
Another interesting fact is cross culture marriage. There's always so much tradition and culture shock to go through. Why do I need to convert to Islam if I marry a Malay girl in Malaysia. Why this, why that, why so many things to consider?
Why do we have war? Because of differing religion? Because of differing ideology? Because of jealousy? Because of racial discrimination? Because of selfishness?
This is probably the bravest thing I've said in my entire life: " Screw religion, screw believes, screw ideology, screw racial identity, screw currency. You want world unity, you throw these thing of. They are the primary blockade for world peace and understanding. So whoever say we can have peace without getting pass all the above things I've said, please, Go. Fuck. Yourself.
All we need is a little bit of love, and thats it. Why make things complicated. Solve it the simplest way. No scheming, no planning. Just get in love, Get married, Grow old together. Live your life to the fullest.
Happy 2009 Valentine's Day ladies and gentleman.
Chang Yeak Hon
Writing this so that I would not have any regrets.
p/s: Girls if you find me attractive and wanna hook up, just get in touch. =P
